I guess what I'm fighting is having my child labeled as 'special ed'. The school keeps telling that it's different now than when I went to school. Nowadays, they are integrated into classrooms and no one even knows. Um excuse me, but if a special ed teacher comes into the classroom everyday to work with Hannah, the other kids won't know? or ever say anything to her? To this I say huh? what planet are you from? I know how kids are. I was one once.
This is how I, as a parent, see my daughter:
- She can walk and talk
- She can learn a song word for word after hearing it 1 or 2 times.
- She can remember word for word books that I've read to her.
- She can count by 5's to 100 (but not backwards)
- She can count by 10's to 100 (but not backwards)
- She can count to 100 (but not backwards)
- She can add and subtract using numbers up to 10 (7+8, 5-4, 8-3, 5+10 etc)
- She knows all her letters and sounds
- She can write all her letters and numbers
- She knows her full name, address, phone number and birthday
- She knows some states on the map
- She knows many things about different animals, the seasons, the earth, the ocean and the planets.
- She has a tremendous vocabulary and can converse extremely well.
- She has a great imagination and can concoct stories that flow in sequence.
- She knows quite a few words by sight and can read a couple easy books like Dick and Jane or Hop on Pop (Dr. Suess)
- She loves music, dancing, and singing. She knows many things about the arts, drawing, painting, and the different mediums.
I think she's a well rounded 7 yr old. What more is she supposed to be doing? Granted, you can't pass her a handful of change and have her count it. Christ, I can barely do that and I'm 41. She can't say the alphabet backwards (you try it... see if you can easily do it).
The only issue I can see with Hannah is that she needs to be prodded along. If you give her a page of sums to do and walk away... she tends to daydream and get sidetracked. Every classroom she's been in so far has had 3 or 4 different tables of things or 'jobs' going on at a time. From observing her, I can tell you that if she's sitting at the 'writing table' trying to write words that start with the letter P, and the 'science table' is squirting food color on ice cubes or floating things in water, and the 'math table' is sorting different colored wooden shapes, and the kids who have finished their 'jobs' are playing with Legos..... I ask you.... just where do you think her attention is? I always felt that if all the kids in the class were doing the same thing, she might be able to concentrate better. Maybe she's holding the rest of the class back? I don't know if because she's bored, distracted, can't focus or just plain doesn't feel like doing it.
Why can't anything be simple? Why is my heart-breaking over this?